Hi, I'm Abel Keogh, and if you've found your way here, chances are you're navigating one of the most beautifully complicated chapters of your life. I'm so glad you're here.

I'm a relationship coach and the go-to expert on dating and marrying a widower. And I don't just speak from a professional perspective—I'm a remarried widower myself. I've lived through the grief, the uncertainty, and the hope that comes with opening your heart after loss. I also know what it's like for the people who love us through that process, because navigating a relationship with someone who is grieving comes with its own unique challenges and heartaches. Grief doesn't come with a roadmap—whether you're the one carrying it or the one loving someone who is. Falling in love and opening your heart after loss is one of the bravest things a person can do, and I'm here to help make that path a little clearer for everyone walking it.

I work with three groups of people, and I'm passionate about all of them:

Women or men dating or married to a widower or widow — I help you understand what's really going on in their heart, figure out whether they're truly ready for a committed relationship, and navigate the unique challenges that come with loving someone who has loved and lost before.

Widowers — I help you work through grief, understand what's holding you back, and learn what it genuinely takes to open your heart to someone new without carrying the weight of the past into your future relationship.

Widows — Losing a spouse is devastating, and the idea of loving again can feel equal parts terrifying and impossible. I help widows process that grief, rebuild their confidence, and take meaningful steps toward opening their heart again when the time feels right.

No matter which path brought you here, you don't have to figure this out alone.

Over the years, I've had the privilege of helping thousands of people work through these exact struggles — and I bring both professional expertise and genuine personal understanding to every conversation. I've been on both sides of this, and that perspective shapes everything I do.

I've written 5 dating guides to help you navigate the unique dynamics of these relationships, a memoir about losing my late wife to suicide and finding love again, and — together with my wife Julianna — a book about the real questions and struggles we had to work through to go from dating to marriage. My books are designed to feel less like advice from a stranger and more like a conversation with someone who truly gets it.

My YouTube channel has grown to over 300 videos, and I'm always adding more — because new questions come up every day and you deserve real, honest answers.

When I'm not coaching or writing, you'll find me out on a run somewhere in the beautiful state of Utah, where I live with my wife Julianna and our seven wonderful kids (yes, we're doing our part for the Beehive State).

If you're ready for some personalized guidance, I'd love to connect. Click here to schedule a one-on-one coaching session — let's figure this out together.