Torchbearers. It seems like there’s always at least one person who constantly talks about the late wife or floods social media with photos and memories of the late wife. While dating a widower can be hard enough, torchbearers can ruin even the strongest relationships. In this video, Abel Keogh discusses ways both the widower and the woman he’s dating can effectively deal with those who choose to live in the past instead of living in the present.