Went to the dark place, pushed through the pain, and completed the Timp Half Marathon in 1:41:09 (7:43 per mile pace).
And, yes, would run it again.
Ditch the Dating App and Join a Club
People are ditching dating apps and meeting people at places like running clubs and other organizations that meet on a regular basis. This is a better way to meet people. More details here and at the video below.
You're NOT Being Insecure!
What do you do when you bring up issues or concerns with a widower and he tells you that "you're being insecure?" I have the answer in this video.
Drama Ensues After Woman Finds Out How Husband Refers to His Late Wife
I was extensively quoted in the article below. Scroll for excerpt. You can read the entire Bored Panda article here.
Excerpt:
Relationship coach and the expert on dating and marrying a widower Abel Keogh says that calling his late spouse “my wife” implies that he’s still married to the deceased person. “If a widower is going to mention their deceased spouse, they should use that person’s first name or they should say ‘late wife’ to clarify that they’re talking about a deceased individual,” he explains.
“Using the term ‘my wife’ in conversation often causes confusion and resentment,” he notes. “If the widower is with his new girlfriend and begins using the term ‘my wife,’ those he’s talking to might think he’s talking about the girlfriend instead of his deceased spouse.”
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“The new spouse has NO obligation to uphold the memory of the late wife,” he emphasizes. “They can do so if they choose, but upholding a memory of the late wife usually makes the living wife feel like second best.”
Read whole article here.
If he doesn’t have your back, he’s not worth it.
“If he doesn’t have your back, he’s not worth it.” — Abel Keogh, Relationship Coach
RIP Gracie
RIP Gracie. You ran until you couldn’t. Thanks for the miles and memories. Will take a long run with you again in the next life.
Loss is part of who you are, but it is not WHO you are
Loss is part of who you are, but it is not who you are. — Abel Keogh, Relationship Coach
Girlfriend or Therapist?
Do you ever feel like you're a therapist instead of a girlfriend? In this video Relationship Coach Abel Keogh gives you 4 ways to know if the widower is in love with you or is using you for free therapy.
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Comparing current relationships and people to past relationships and people is a quick and easy way to kill a loving relationship. In this video I discuss how to avoid such comparison and what to do if your partner is playing the comparison game.
Stop Litigating the Past!
Constantly bringing up past mistakes is poison for your relationship. In this video, relationship coach Abel Keogh discusses the best path forward when one or both parties in a relationship continue to litigate the past.